I spend a lot of time talking to my kids about equality – whether it’s how they share their toys with each other, or how they see the world. Fortunately, I’m of a generation where it’s been much easier for me to see those whom I meet as who they are: people. My daughter is 10, going on 20, and lately has been asking me a lot of questions like…
Why can’t two men or two women marry each other if they want to?
Why do other people care so much about who marries who?
Love isn’t the same for everyone?
My answer is always something along the lines of this: Love is love. It can’t be squished into a box and handed out to only the people who ‘deserve’ it. It is an organic, living thing. And then I go on to tell my kids that some people want to keep love squished in this box for only those who are like them, but love should be set free, since everyone has the right to love whom they want, and be respected for it.
As a parent, I think one of my many jobs is to teach my children about acceptance for those who might be different, but especially love – for themselves and for others, regardless of what beliefs label people.
Our job as parents should be to love our children despite who they grow up to love.
The point is not WHO our children one day love but that they DO love. If they find that, then as parents, we succeeded.
On a sidenote…this is one of my daughter’s favorite songs right now: