There are human beings that don’t deserve to share the oxygen of our planet with the rest of us.
As quoted from Rachel Witkin’s article (in reaction to blogger Roosh V’s, ‘How To Stop Rape’):
“If rape becomes legal under my proposal, a girl will protect her body in the same manner that she protects her purse and smartphone. If rape becomes legal, a girl will not enter an impaired state of mind where she can’t resist being dragged off to a bedroom with a man who she is unsure of—she’ll scream, yell, or kick at his attempt while bystanders are still around. If rape becomes legal, she will never be unchaperoned with a man she doesn’t want to sleep with. After several months of advertising this law throughout the land, rape would be virtually eliminated on the first day it is applied.
Without daddy government to protect her, a girl would absolutely not enter a private room with a man she doesn’t know or trust unless she is absolutely sure she is ready to sleep with him. Consent is now achieved when she passes underneath the room’s door frame, because she knows that that man can legally do anything he wants to her when it comes to sex. Bad encounters are sure to occur, but these can be learning experiences for the poorly trained woman so she can better identify in the future the type of good man who will treat her like the delicate flower that she believes she is. After only one such sour experience, she will actually want to get fully acquainted with a man for longer than two hours—perhaps even demanding to meet his parents—instead of letting a beer chug prevent her from making the correct decisions to protect her body.”
Rachel Witkin shared the above quote from misogynist ‘Roosh V’ who she names as ‘Roosh Vorek’ and brings to light a sensitive and important issue: rape. What is rape, and who exactly is responsible? Well, to most of us, that answer would be a no-brainer – the abuser, right? Not so, says Roosh V.
This is my author page. Why post this here? Because there’s no point in arguing with pure stupid by commenting under the original blog. It would be the equivalent of smashing my face against a wall. And I like my nose, so would rather not see it broken. I have so many issues with this man’s thinking. The first and most obvious being that he seems to be speaking of only ONE kind of rape as bothersome to him – date rape – and how it’s not the rapist’s fault at all, but the woman’s. What about children that are raped, women that are pulled off the sidewalk on their way home from work and raped in an alley, women that are raped in their own beds by someone who broke into their home or (yes, this does happen) by their own boyfriends or husbands, young girls who are raped by their ‘friends’, gay men that are raped, what about men who are raped by women? Or…or…or…I could go on forever. There are MULTIPLE kinds of rape. But rape is still rape.
In his rant, Roosh V compares the responsibility of a drunk woman causing an accident to a drunk woman being raped. This is ludicrous. If an intoxicated person gets behind the wheel of their car and drives, they are in ‘charge’ of their actions and the consequences. If an intoxicated woman passes out in a man’s apartment or at a party, she’s responsible for the hangover, not what an outsider chooses to do to her without her consent.
Roosh V seems to think that if a woman enters private property, she has forfeit the rights to her safety – to her own body, for that matter – to the closest man in the vicinity looking for sex. He wants to see rape that occurs on private property legalized. Because his thoughts are that the moment a woman steps out of public, or crosses the threshold of a man’s front door, that her body belongs to him to use as he sees fit. As if the act of violently sexually assaulting someone is any different on a bed, or in a park.
What. A. Douchecanoe.
This guy’s arguments are so beyond one-sided and ignorant, I can only come to two conclusions: he has a rapist mentality himself, or he truly has no brains, like…zero intelligence. However, since on Roosh V’s site he claims to have a degree in microbiology, I guess we can rule out the uneducated part. I wonder how the University of Maryland feels about this particular graduate? I doubt it’s pride.
Anyway, I digress. Yes, women AND men have the responsibility to take care of themselves in social situations, and do their part by not putting themselves in avoidable danger, but that NEVER gives another the permission nor the right, to abuse, molest, torture and shame someone. What Roosh V is doing by sprouting what some could call ‘hate’ for women via his blogging platform is undermining every legitimate rape case out there – from incest rape to gang rape, from date rate to stranger rape, and taking the blame away from the perpetrator and resting it solely on the abused.
What the actual f**k is this madness?
When someone says “NO”, or is not physically, emotionally, or mentally able to say “YES”, it’s sexual assault. Which leads me to why I wrote this post. While there surely are women with questionable judgement out there, there are also men with questionable morals. Regardless of what situation she might end up in, no woman would say before she goes out, ‘Tonight I want to have fun! And if I get drunk or someone drugs me then brutally rapes me, it’s not their fault, it’s mine!’ Bull. Shit.
I write about rape (date rape to be specific) in my Station series. No, this is not a plug for my books. This hits a nerve. I’m a rape survivor myself, the 1 in 3 statistic, and I can tell you this much, I didn’t ask for it, nor did I ‘put’ myself in a position to deserve it. I wrote about it in ‘Dying to Forget’ as a form of therapy for myself, but also for the teens/adults out there who have been through situations that changed them forever. We aren’t victims, we are survivors. We are fighters. We are people with rights. Young girls AND young boys need to be taught that all rape is a crime, no matter who the abuser is, and that rape is never deserved. Because what Roosh V doesn’t seem to understand, is that sexual encounters do not always occur between two people in a long-term committed relationship. Men aren’t the only ones who are ‘allowed’ to have one-night stands, or casual sexual encounters. Women are allowed consensual sexual gratification, just like men, and should be able to decide who they want to share intimacy with and who they don’t, without the fear of slut-shaming or being raped. A point worth mentioning, that Roosh V totally avoids, is that rapists come in all shapes and sizes and pedigrees. Are the “seedy” and “deranged men” that Roosh V mentions in his post different from a young college man that rapes his girlfriend because she passed out after one too many drinks, then allows his friends to take advantage of her too? I don’t know about you, but that still seems like ‘rape’ to me. When I was in college, I invited a guy friend over to watch a movie. During that movie, we kissed. I didn’t want to have sex with him, so when he got a bit too grabby, I asked him to leave. We had very different ideas of how that evening would go. But per Roosh V’s suggestion, because this was private property, and I invited this man into my home, he had every right to rape me if he’d wanted to. Wow.
And dudes, FYI, it’s actually normal for women to change their minds. Especially if our inner ‘Red Flag Warning System’ gets set off. In fact, we change our minds a lot. Get used to it.
I can’t believe there are people like this blogger in the world. I can’t. And if I was in a room with this ‘man’ when he opened his mouth and said such things, my feminine ‘delicacies’ would unleash a whole can of whoop-ass. Because what Roosh V and his supporters are saying is not only wrong, but immoral and inhumane. And this guy admits to having a sister, whom he doesn’t want to see get raped! I don’t want to trample on his freedom of speech rights, I want to trample on his crotch in a pair of 5 inch stilettos. Granted, I’m not a violent person by nature, but when someone attacks and insults the entire female sex in such an abhorrent and public way, and claims that rape should be made legal (which, hello, is an incredibly DANGEROUS thing to do) it brings out my inner bitch. Women have a right to drink, a right to say NO, and a right to change their mind, regardless of where they are when they do so. Public or private property. Location has nothing to do with rape, Mr. V. And a true gentleman won’t take advantage of a woman who is not sober and able to consent to sexual activity.
Just like girls and women, boys and men need to learn how to be safe and smart. We are taught this (hopefully) by our parents. We can’t take what is ours just because we ‘want’ it. We learn as kids (again, hopefully) that giving is just as important as receiving if not more so, and when it comes to sex, we learn over time that there are rules to wooing a potential bed mate or a long-term partner, and rape is not an option.
Figuring out the rights and wrongs about sex can be intimidating or even scary for teens and young adults. But guys, come on, it’s really rather simple: put your penis only where it’s actually invited.
Thank you, Rachel, for bringing this topic to light. And ‘high five’ to all the other feminists out there, be them male or female, who don’t want to see more Roosh V’s out there, spreading such vile suggestions to our youth. Let us raise our kids to be accepting, kind and compassionate individuals, not monsters.