Like what I assume are millions of other people over the last few months, I came across E! Online’s article this am about the lovely Goldie Hawn, pulled from her Porter Magazine article in June, and one of the things she talks about is her ongoing 32 year relationship with Kurt Russell. If you don’t know much about them, they still aren’t married, which is actually kind of awesome and impressive, considering this is a Hollywood couple, where dating/marriage status never seems to stay the same for long. Even us normal(ish) folks can look at a relationship such as Hawn’s and Russell’s and find it inspiring. In this interview, Goldie says about relationships:
I’ve always loved Goldie Hawn, but as she ages (beyond gracefully and beautifully, may I point out) she continues to be not only a positive influence for other women in the acting industry, but all women in general. I love her take on relationships – on marriage. So simple, yet so difficult for some of us to master. Obviously, her and Kurt have found the sweet spot that works for them, kudos!
So, the writer brain immediately kicked in while thinking about this article and other relationships out there that work the same way; I imagined how awesome it would be if more Romance characters were written to find love through happiness, not happiness through love. What it the marriage vows were erased and the rings discarded, and human beings focused only on “compatibility and communication”, like Goldie Hawn suggests. I mean, I’d want to read more books like that. Where the ‘girl’ doesn’t grow up fantasizing about her fairy tale wedding, and the ‘young woman’ doesn’t spend her time pining over men not quite grown up enough to be ready for a solid relationship, and where mature women don’t feel the need to change who they are to attract a love interest. The purpose of life doesn’t need to include a marriage certificate complete with the white picket fence and 2.3 children. Love can work, and work well, around the expectations and traditions of our parents, outside the mold we’ve all (mostly) grown up in.
If you know of stories that work this way, I want to read them, so throw me some suggestions. I’m not the biggest Romance genre reader, but I do love me some strong fictional women. In the meantime, that endlessly spinning wheel in my brain where plot bunnies like to hide out, is thinking up all kinds of bookish scenarios to break the traditional Romance mold. It’s not like I particularly need more story ideas, but if I do tend toward the way of full-fledged Romance with my writing, with future projects, I’ll take a page out of the Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell playbook.
Happy Thursday, y’all!
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