Thursday Think on the Romance Genre

Like what I assume are millions of other people over the last few months, I came across E! Online’s article this am about the lovely Goldie Hawn, pulled from her Porter Magazine article in June, and one of the things she talks about is her ongoing 32 year relationship with Kurt Russell. If you don’t know much about them, they still aren’t married, which is actually kind of awesome and impressive, considering this is a Hollywood couple, where dating/marriage status never seems to stay the same for long. Even us normal(ish) folks can look at a relationship such as Hawn’s and Russell’s and find it inspiring. In this interview, Goldie says about relationships:

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I’ve always loved Goldie Hawn, but as she ages (beyond gracefully and beautifully, may I point out) she continues to be not only a positive influence for other women in the acting industry, but all women in general. I love her take on relationships – on marriage. So simple, yet so difficult for some of us to master. Obviously, her and Kurt have found the sweet spot that works for them, kudos!

So, the writer brain immediately kicked in while thinking about this article and other relationships out there that work the same way; I imagined how awesome it would be if more Romance characters were written to find love through happiness, not happiness through love. What it the marriage vows were erased and the rings discarded, and human beings focused only on “compatibility and communication”, like Goldie Hawn suggests. I mean, I’d want to read more books like that. Where the ‘girl’ doesn’t grow up fantasizing about her fairy tale wedding, and the ‘young woman’ doesn’t spend her time pining over men not quite grown up enough to be ready for a solid relationship, and where mature women don’t feel the need to change who they are to attract a love interest. The purpose of life doesn’t need to include a marriage certificate complete with the white picket fence and 2.3 children. Love can work, and work well, around the expectations and traditions of our parents, outside the mold we’ve all (mostly) grown up in.

If you know of stories that work this way, I want to read them, so throw me some suggestions. I’m not the biggest Romance genre reader, but I do love me some strong fictional women. In the meantime, that endlessly spinning wheel in my brain where plot bunnies like to hide out, is thinking up all kinds of bookish scenarios to break the traditional Romance mold. It’s not like I particularly need more story ideas, but if I do tend toward the way of full-fledged Romance with my writing, with future projects, I’ll take a page out of the Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell playbook.

Thanks for posting a snippet of the Porter interview, E! Online…these are the stories about our celebrities that I want to read. *wink* You can read the full story HERE.

Happy Thursday, y’all!


 

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Love…outside the box

I spend a lot of time talking to my kids about equality – whether it’s how they share their toys with each other, or how they see the world. Fortunately, I’m of a generation where it’s been much easier for me to see those whom I meet as who they are: people. My daughter is 10, going on 20, and lately has been asking me a lot of questions like…

Why can’t two men or two women marry each other if they want to?

Why do other people care so much about who marries who?

Love isn’t the same for everyone?

My answer is always something along the lines of this: Love is love. It can’t be squished into a box and handed out to only the people who ‘deserve’ it. It is an organic, living thing. And then I go on to tell my kids that some people want to keep love squished in this box for only those who are like them, but love should be set free, since everyone has the right to love whom they want, and be respected for it.

As a parent, I think one of my many jobs is to teach my children about acceptance for those who might be different, but especially love – for themselves and for others, regardless of what beliefs label people.

Our job as parents should be to love our children despite who they grow up to love.

The point is not WHO our children one day love but that they DO love. If they find that, then as parents, we succeeded.

On a sidenote…this is one of my daughter’s favorite songs right now: